Walking in a weather so cold and windy with the earth hard like stone. Covered in ice and uneven is the ground. A difficult walk and a hard work breathing, yet I pace across determined to reach my goal. Road signs covered in ice. Strong winds keeping your eyes closed and heads bowed. Hoping it ends soon is a prayer you muster for the sunshine and bright day. So sad it’s five months away.
I had thought for a few days on the best title to give to this writing. What was the perfect way to pass this message. And then it came and I couldn’t think of a better way to put it. Lack in Abundance is an irony and it is the story of my beloved country Nigeria.
Going through the online news media in an attempt to stay abreast of what is happening back home, I was glad when I read our President had launched the “Change Begins with Me” campaign. Oh Finally! We have decided to implement what change really is, I said. I have always said in a few of my writings and discussions with friends on issues like this that the true change we need is a change of the mind – a change in how we think and do things. Every other change will only end up in total failure if we do not change our mentality as Nigerians.
I will lift up my head to the hills,
From whence cometh my help…
My help cometh from within.
Why will he say that? Doesn’t he know the song? Can you imagine? He just murdered my favourite song! No, he didn’t.
So long yet so short,
With the ability to crawl and fly,
So cheap yet quite costly,
It is given freely but spent like money.
I had a discussion with a dear friend of mine as I planned to take a long trip which was going to last for a while. It meant we weren’t going to see each other for a very long while with a possibility of never. Well just a possibility. She commented, ‘’that’s quite long’’. My response came like an opened tap which water hasn’t flown through for a while, only for water to suddenly begin to gush out. I said “so long, so short, the irony of time”. Even for me the one who uttered the phrase, it was a case of ‘talking’ before ‘thinking’. The usual order is ‘thinking’ before ‘talking’ I believe.
I remember when a friend asked me “John, how are you finding work?”, (in this part of the world, there is a thin line between job and work so most of the time when someone asks about work or job they mean the same thing) without thinking, I responded and told him that work was good and I was enjoying it but I would not mind another job. In simple words, I loved what I did but I wasn’t really satisfied with the job.
For successful mentoring to happen between the mentor and the protege, there is a need for both parties to agree and act in the best ways towards the success of the relationship. Both need to contribute their own quota for it to work out.
I know most of those reading this are thinking – ‘‘Why on earth should I embrace failure?’’ Some might even feel insulted and ask ‘’what is the meaning of this?’’ I have the same answer for both questions. Take your time to finish reading and get the true meaning of the topic.
Avenues to increase your income or double your pay is something most of us look for. A lot of us do not derive full satisfaction from our 8 to 5 activities and always look for something to do on the side that will fulfill our inner desires for satisfaction. While a lot of employers discourage this and some will even advice you it is better to go all in and leave what you have at the moment, the reluctance to leave the bird in hand and go for the more promising two in the bush is always quite high.
Having and commanding the respect of others is a tremendous advantage in life. That edge comes from self-discipline. The highly disciplined individual does not have to point a gun at anyone to take what he wants; people “sense” his power and cheerfully give him everything they’ve got.